”About the book, phd
There was once a time that people were concerned about how they were perceived. They took pains to "be better" and "look better" than those who did not care much. We felt and believed that there was an association between how you looked and how you thought. Sometimes it was positive and represented pride and positive thinking and sometimes it did not. Sometimes the "cool" factor is all that the person had. "Style" with no substance. These days there has been a change in the manner that some people carry themselves and handle their responsibilities; not that anything was perfect before. However, the subject that we will discuss is what many of us deem as the sloppiest, slouchiest "style" that has become far too common in our communities. In the book, Pants Hanging Down, we discuss the physical manner that these kids and young adults wear their pants and the "mentalities" of those who do so. We will also discuss the meaning and history of this "style" that if most of the people were aware of they likely would not dress nor allow their children to dress in this manner. However, before you exclude yourself from the equation as someone who does not dress like that, wait. PHD will also discuss relationships, parenting, sexuality, finances and other areas of life where our pants are hanging down across the country and especially in our minority communites. Do you make your children clean up or earn their money? Is your man (or woman) "sorry" and you still allow him or her the "pleasure" of your company? Are you in debt beyond your understanding? What is your concept of "keeping it real"? Pants Hanging Down seeks to inform you in a manner that helps you pull up your pants so that you make your reality a better reality.
As the book, Pants Hanging Down is being printed, here are a few excerpts. These are unedited excerpts so please read for the content. We were excited and a bit anxious to give you all a "little" something so here it is:
Taking Care of a Non-Working Man
...It is sometimes really hard to ascertain when a person is being honest with you and when they are being deceitful. It takes time to know. By the time it's realized who the person is, many people have invested a lot of time, money and even their hearts in building the relationship. Although many people get caught in the crossfire, it is often women these days that have to be more aware of the men and their deceptive behaviors. Though women are as treacherous as men, this is not about them (this time). There are a large number of men who have what many woman are looking for on the surface but have very little of what counts inside; in their hearts and in their minds. After the formal introductions have been made and you are in the "flow" of the relationship, you, women, have to pay attention. This is not about “busting” the men or stopping their “games”. However, women, need to make sure that the man they have chosen is doing something productive. He needs to show that he is actually someone that can be relied upon. As important as sex or “hitting it right” may be, it is just as important that he work or do something else. Do not continue to take care of this man if he will not at least cut the grass or wash the dishes. If you, the woman, are working and he chooses not to and he has no plans that are “in progress” then “Houston, there is a problem.” It’s one thing to run into a tough stretch in life as many people do. It is another to live on that tough stretch for years and not make an effort to get off. What is sad, even pitiful, is that many women will allow a man to be on that street for years and use the excuse that he uses and make up others in defense of him to her friends just to reinforce the notion that “at least she has a man”. Wrong ma'am. What you have is a male who is "of age"...
Absentee Fathers
...Men have always been in the role as leaders. That’s how it was meant to be. The children who are the offspring of these men inertly have a feeling of security when their parents are around; especially their fathers. If someone did something to a child, the child was more inclined to say without thinking, “I’m gonna tell my daddy on you.” Whatever was going on either stopped or the other child would respond by saying that he was going to tell his father. Whatever the case, “dad” had clout. He stood for protection. He represented rules and limits. Even if you misbehaved as a child, all that your mother had to say was, “I’m gonna tell your father” and the mischievous activity was over. You didn’t even think about "acting up" any more because, though you knew your father had your back, you also knew he would break your back (butt) if you got too far out of line. Therefore, respect was an automatic part of this relationship. As long as you were around your father there was a way that you behaved and it was usually the correct way. Even in your most playful moments you knew the limits. The mere presence of the man meant a certain type of behavior. As a child, there was someone who you had to respect. He was responsible for you and everyone knew it. More importantly you knew. The respect that you had for your own father was shown for other men to some degree because they also represented or commanded it by doing nothing more than being the proper age. Even those who were maybe not as "upright" in their “lifestyles” were shown a degree of respect. The words that were spoken were as important coming from your father as any you ever heard. They reverberated with you even in his absence. You knew what to do and what not to do because you remembered what he had said. He did not have to be there. And if you forgot, then the reminder by another person, especially another man, was sufficient. Here is why those absentee fathers who choose to be away from the children have their pants hanging way down. "Effective" is one word that describes a father. A child is more inclined to follow his lead if he shows them which way to go. The “healthy fear” of his authority compels the child to do what “dad said” just because he said it. The child then learns “why” through his experience in that situation. However, we have a generation of young men who are trying to lead who have no good examples to follow. It’s like trying to build a house with no blueprint. There is no way that it can be done properly. There is no way to know where the plumbing goes. You have to guess. You can not know where the doors and windows should be. You have to approximate. Though your mother may be able to point and show you what it should look like, if she is not a builder herself, she can not tell you or show you how to build the house. Only a builder who has done the work can really tell you. As metaphorically illustrated, a woman cannot show a boy how to be a man. She can tell him. She can even illustrate or point to good examples of men. However she can not show him....
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PREVIEWS
---Gene Stubbson has written the most important book in my opinion in the last twenty years. He is an old man in a young man's body. Stubbson has captured the essence of my generation in a new philosophy that is so needed in our nation as it relates to our youth crisis in America today. How my mind reverted back to what he called a time when the "whole community" raised our families. How my heart lit up when this great young author talked about re-establishing family order. To quote this his eloquence, he writes "As the child's parent we need to set the example. We need to be structured as it is in nature and every civilized society whether it be industrialized or still hidden in the tall trees of primitive environments. We need to serve as examples as to what ought and should be done that produces productive members of society." I believe that Stubbson is right when he says that "we as a village have a responsibility to operate within a set of rules", just like we are taught in our education system. I agree. And I am now forced to ask too, "Where is the village?" Where are the congregations of homes, houses, families and people who lived their lives in small communities? Stubbson gives us the answers. Chapter two of this great book leads us out of the "city mentality" back to the "village", where we can be nourished, nurtured, and protected from ourselves.
Willie Jones, Senior Pastor
New Mount Calvary MBC, Houston, Texas
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Most of us accept the adage that "it takes a village to raise a child." However, when a child makes a big mistake in judgement or conduct, we don't blame the village, we blame the child. Rather than simply focus on the child, this book invites the village to look in the mirror for real answers to the troubles of our children. The village has changed and yet we question why our children have changed. Sorting out the ills of the village is the "true prescription" for healing the village's sick children. Pants Hanging Down reminds us that introspection, or self-examination, is a far healthier outlook than the "blame game". phd is simply a "must read" for those who prefer the former.
Rep. Harold V. Dutton, Jr.
State Representative - District 142, State of Texas
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One of the most profound statements I've ever heard during my years as a criminal justice professional is ," You practice what you value and value what you practice." Meaning, what's in you will come out. Everything you try to hide is "oozing" out the side. Everything you try to contain will not be restrained. Prov. 23:7 states," So a man thinketh, so is he." Moreover, what's in your heart will manifest in your mind and what's in your mind will develop into your behavior and how you act. Who you are, regardless of what you say, and how others perceive you, is how you will be treated. phd nails it! This "in-our-face" literary masterpiece personifies the "cancerous mentalities" plaguing our society today. Many of us degrade the hip-hop culture for showcasing their "nakedness". However, we as the upper echelon, fail to realize our "pants are hanging down", so to speak, in areas more pertinent than clothes. For they can change their clothes quicker than you can change your attitude. We all need to get this book as soon as it is released.
Toni Netters-Rutherford/CSO II/HCCSCD - Probation Officer
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"Pants Hanging Down" (phd) is an excellent book that gets you thinking. It's an introspective work which analyzes and reviews the "causes and effects" of the lack of participation of "the village" in raising the children.
Alphonso Delaney - Boyscout Master
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There is a "glitch" in the program that runs this site. There are repeated sections that occurred through no mistake on our part. For some reason, it will not allow me to correct the problem without deleting the site. Therefore PLEASE DISREGARD the repeated sections following this one. Near the bottom is more information. The store is now open.
Pants Hanging Down reminds us that introspection, or self-examination, is a far healthier outlook than the "blame game". phd is simply a "must read" for those who prefer the former.
Rep. Harold V. Dutton, Jr.
State Representative - District 142, State of Texas
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One of the most profound statements I've ever heard during my years as a criminal justice professional is ," You practice what you value and value what you practice." Meaning, what's in you will come out. Everything you try to hide is "oozing" out the side. Everything you try to contain will not be restrained. Prov. 23:7 states," So a man thinketh, so is he." Moreover, what's in your heart will manifest in your mind and what's in your mind will develop into your behavior and how you act. Who you are, regardless of what you say, and how others perceive you, is how you will be treated. phd nails it! This "in-our-face" literary masterpiece personifies the "cancerous mentalities" plaguing our society today. Many of us degrade the hip-hop culture for showcasing their "nakedness". However, we as the upper echelon, fail to realize our "pants are hanging down", so to speak, in areas more pertinent than clothes. For they can change their clothes quicker than you can change your attitude. We all need to get this book as soon as it is released.
Toni Netters-Rutherford/CSO II/HCCSCD - Probation Officer
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"Pants Hanging Down" (phd) is an excellent book that gets you thinking. It's an introspective work which analyzes and reviews the "causes and effects" of the lack of participation of "the village" in raising the children.
Alphonso Delaney - Boyscout Master
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There is a "glitch" in the program that runs this site. There are repeated sections that occurred through no mistake on our part. For some reason, it will not allow me to correct the problem without deleting the site. Therefore PLEASE DISREGARD the repeated sections following this one. Near the bottom is more information. The store is now open.
Pants Hanging Down reminds us that introspection, or self-examination, is a far healthier outlook than the "blame game". phd is simply a "must read" for those who prefer the former.
Rep. Harold V. Dutton, Jr.
State Representative - District 142, State of Texas
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One of the most profound statements I've ever heard during my years as a criminal justice professional is ," You practice what you value and value what you practice." Meaning, what's in you will come out. Everything you try to hide is "oozing" out the side. Everything you try to contain will not be restrained. Prov. 23:7 states," So a man thinketh, so is he." Moreover, what's in your heart will manifest in your mind and what's in your mind will develop into your behavior and how you act. Who you are, regardless of what you say, and how others perceive you, is how you will be treated. phd nails it! This "in-our-face" literary masterpiece personifies the "cancerous mentalities" plaguing our society today. Many of us degrade the hip-hop culture for showcasing their "nakedness". However, we as the upper echelon, fail to realize our "pants are hanging down", so to speak, in areas more pertinent than clothes. For they can change their clothes quicker than you can change your attitude. We all need to get this book as soon as it is released.
Toni Netters-Rutherford/CSO II/HCCSCD - Probation Officer
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"Pants Hanging Down" (phd) is an excellent book that gets you thinking. It's an introspective work which analyzes and reviews the "causes and effects" of the lack of participation of "the village" in raising the children.
Alphonso Delaney - Boyscout Master
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There is a "glitch" in the program that runs this site. There are repeated sections that occurred through no mistake on our part. For some reason, it will not allow me to correct the problem without deleting the site. Therefore PLEASE DISREGARD the repeated sections following this one. Near the bottom is more information. The store is now open.
Pants Hanging Down reminds us that introspection, or self-examination, is a far healthier outlook than the "blame game". phd is simply a "must read" for those who prefer the former.
Rep. Harold V. Dutton, Jr.
State Representative - District 142, State of Texas
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One of the most profound statements I've ever heard during my years as a criminal justice professional is ," You practice what you value and value what you practice." Meaning, what's in you will come out. Everything you try to hide is "oozing" out the side. Everything you try to contain will not be restrained. Prov. 23:7 states," So a man thinketh, so is he." Moreover, what's in your heart will manifest in your mind and what's in your mind will develop into your behavior and how you act. Who you are, regardless of what you say, and how others perceive you, is how you will be treated. phd nails it! This "in-our-face" literary masterpiece personifies the "cancerous mentalities" plaguing our society today. Many of us degrade the hip-hop culture for showcasing their "nakedness". However, we as the upper echelon, fail to realize our "pants are hanging down", so to speak, in areas more pertinent than clothes. For they can change their clothes quicker than you can change your attitude. We all need to get this book as soon as it is released.
Toni Netters-Rutherford/CSO II/HCCSCD - Probation Officer
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Got to www.pantshangingdown.com/blog.html or to "contact us" and answer the questions or just make comments.
- What do you think about a child that hits his mother ?
- What are your true feelings about "tattoos"?
- How much tattooing is too much?
- How do you feel about the people like Don Imus who call women "bitches and hoes" ?
- What do you think about a man who doesn't work and let's the woman take care of all the responsibilities?
- Is "keeping it real" what people really are doing?
- Do they understand what "real" actually is?
- What is stylish about showing your underwear?
- What comes to mind when you think about what "cool" means?
- Why is wanting to be a "thug" so appealing?
